The Two Types of People #DriversAndPassengers

I have a theory. There are only two types of people around us. I believe, ones you come to know this theory it will bring significant changes into your life.

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In every period of human history, man has strived to understand man. Understanding human nature is a much needed quality. People spend their lives with someone, and still they express that they did not understand the person. So, when it comes to understanding the human behaviour, its as complicated a subject as the structure of a beehive might be. We want to understand it; some of us believe they understand it; some of us know and they humbly agree that they don’t understand it; and then their are some whom people believe to know human nature, but even they are as baffled as we all are.

If you belong to those who believe that understanding of human nature is a key to happiness, good health, wealth and success; I am proudly one of you. In my opinion, and observations, which is very small, everyone wants to understand human being. Many scientists and philosophers have expressed various views and opinions about the concept. Surprisingly, everyone of them is right. 

Today when we discuss my understanding of human nature, we all are going to join the grand legacy of legendary scientists and philosophers. 

I have come to observe that there are only two types of human beings. Since the beginning of the world there were only two kinds of people. And I have got reasons to believe that for time immemorial, there will always be two types of people. These two types are- Drivers & Passengers. In simple words, Rulers and Followers. 

A large section of us who believe that they are the victims of situations; who believe that they are unlucky; who believe that life is so unfair and they never got a chance; who believe that they are punished for their sins from last birth; who follow some beliefs, scriptures, societies and groups blindly and never ask a question; who believe that they are alive because of their leaders; who believe on the information supplied to them just blindly with unquestioning faith; who believe that their is no purpose to their lives; who believe that they are insignificant; who do not think twice to kill and be killed to protect their beliefs are the Passengers.

The small segment of humans who believe that they are the centre of the world; who lead people and create the range of followers; who are always living behind a legacy in one form or other; who do not speak much but whos actions are unmistakable; who abide to truth and don’t change their sides for gains; who believe in humanity and know that it starts from them; who do charity just easily and have no pride in that; I call them Drivers.

Now here’s the catch. Both these categories need each other. Let’s not get to the point that passengers are weak ones. Let’s not decide that drivers are famous personalities and stars. We all are mixture of these two qualities. However, we have inclination towards one of them. 

Now let’s see, how this helps. If you believe that you need a person to follow you. What you really need is a passenger. Since passengers are in majority its relatively easy to locate and find them. Drivers however, are fewer. Sometimes, passengers speak and act like drivers and we mistakenly take them for drivers. However, given time to observe them we will understand vividly.

Now, I will take you to the crust of the topic. This knowledge will help you understand what you can expect someone when subjected to tough situations. Passengers will run away and drivers will hold their post. This will help you because tough times will come for sure. And you should know who you can count on and who might be counting onto you. It all depends on who you are. 

This theory will help you choose people. Depending on the work that you have got you need to spot either the drivers or the passengers. And beware, never choose the ones who have confusing mixture of the qualities. Because these are the confused ones. 

This theory will equip you with the much needed skill of responding to the people. Both drivers and passengers seek different responses from you when they ask you something. While passengers prefer basic answers, drivers fall for flaunty artistic answers. While passengers answer themselves and won’t raise doubts, drivers can be demanding and adamant. While passengers are just lost in their own, drivers seem to look for opportunities to find your faults.

And now the most important of all. I have come to believe that what we are today is the average of the 5 people we spent our time with. Understand the people around you and the people you deal with. Decide who you want to be. If you want to be a driver and are living among passengers, its a high time you changed your friends. The opposite also applies.

I have put significant amount of thinking into this article. But I believe there might be a lot of wrongs in it. I would love to know your opinions and views on the same. Do share your views in comments.

Life Is Like a Train #TheMeaningfulAnalogy

Life Is very much like a train. As it happens in a train journey, the quality of journey depends on the compartment we travel in. Similarly, the quality of life is determined by which class we choose to live in. I believe, the decision as to which compartment you wish to travel in lies with the traveller. So does the

I have been really lucky to get in touch with a few influential people. What influenced me to the core was their ability to deal with situations; their way of interacting with people and their understanding about life. One thing was very much common among the influential people I got to be with. They were all sure about what they were going to do the next day. They were sure about what they wanted to do, to have and to achieve in long term as well.

In the seminar I attended a couple of days back, I was amazed by the understanding of life by the speaker. He understood one thing for sure, we do not have to understand the life. Because, we can’t. Nobody can’t. But yes, we surely can analyse it.

Let’s hear it in speakers own words. He said, “as I look at it, life is like a Train. I will tell you why I think so. Like a Train, all of us have our journeys fixed. All of us will begin (birth) at the same point and will reach to the same destination  (death). Like a moving train, all of us will gradually grow old. There is no way we can reverse it. Like stations that come on the rail journey, all of us will go through different stages of life. And now, here is the thing I would like everyone to focus upon. Because, according to me, this is the most important part of the train journey. It is sure that all of us will reach to the same destination, but the secret is, when we will reach the destination all of us will give different reactions. You know why? Because we will travel in different compartments. Those who travelled in general class, they will complain that they are tired in the journey. They did not get the place to sit. There was no hygiene. And they did not enjoy the beauty of nature from the window. However, those who travelled in first class, they will enjoy the journey. They enjoy the comforts of the air conditioning and privacy. They enjoy the views from the window.”

There is actually no difference in all of us but how we choose to lead our life. Decide in which class you would like to lead your life. 

A Man Working In Spite of Sickness #AnalyseNow

​I started for the office early morning and found that I had a flat tyre. I was not so pleased with the turn of the events. But then, what started out as a misfortune turned out to be a great learning experience for me. Not that I learnt something new, I reiterated the learnings which are engraved over time.

Meeting with a flat tyre is a situation many office goers dread of. I am certainly one of them. For me, the most frustrating thing about the whole situation is, I have to push my two wheeler all the way to the garage. 

The thing that adds more to the discomfort is, most of the garages do not open early morning. And, more often than not, one has to do the bike pushing exercise for longer than expected. 

After pushing bike for half a mile, I finally reached to the garage which was actually open. When I reached to the garage I was suddenly sad because the owner of the small repair garage was pulling down the shutter. It appeared that he was closing for the day. The first thought that appeared to me was, I probably should take a leave from office for the day. 

As a final reaort I requested him to do the repair work.

“I am closing the garage for two hours.” The lean looking garage owner said. His eyes were swollen and red. His voice was weak. He later informed me that he was 48 years old. “I have got a fever since last 2 days. Last night I had been tossing and turning in bed whole night. The cold had entered me like a ghost. I have to go early otherwise there will be a long queue in the government hospital.”

I really felt pity for him. But I requested him nevertheless. To my surprise he pulled the shutter open. And began working.

“So kind of you to do the work in spite of ill health.” I said. What he replied had a great meaning in it.

“I am not doing this for kindness sir. I am doing this for money. I have been struggling for every single penny my whole life. It’s a very small work I am doing in illness. You might be surprised to hear this. I have dug trenches for days in such health situations. I have lifted loads; I have worked in construction sites; I have worked on rail tracks.” 

For a moment I felt like I was tormenting him. I felt guilty. I did not speak much. I hate gloomy situations like this in which I seem to run out of words to speak.

When the garage owner was done with separating the tyre. His daughter returned. She wore a khaki school dress.

He was a proud father. He asked her what was taught in the tuitions that day. The little girl replied that she had some doubts.

“Sir, can you teach this small concept of my daughter.” The owner requested me very humbly. “I went to the school for only 3 days. In my childhood days, teachers punished with canes. I was so intimidated that I stopped going to school. Now I understand that it’s the reason I am in this situation.” He went on to explain how his contemporaries had been successful and happy.

I explained the concept to his daughter he spoke his heart out.

“I have done three mistakes in my life. First, I disregarded education. Now I  am very particular about my daughter’s education. Second, In my youth I worked a lot and earned good money, but I did not know how to save money for future. And now, I have to work for survival even when I am ill. Last year a person from insurance company explained to me that if I had saved only 10 Rupees every day since my youth, I would have been a millionaire now. But I never paid any attention to it. But I am changing now. I have started saving for my daughter’s education and future. I deposit 1000 Rupees each month. Third, only last year I started this shop, otherwise I was working on wages my whole life. It was only after the person from insurance company opened my eyes. I know its late but I am happy that I have atleast began.”

When he concluded, there was a faint shine in his eyes. 

The incident is self explanatory. Let me know your views on it.

Having The Goalbook #TowardsSuccess

I am going to explain you the science of goals today. This is the science used by many great leaders, philanthropists, philosophers and scientists of modern times. Read till the end to uncover the secret of success you can use in your daily life.

For past 8 to 9 years I have maintained the daily journals. It has been a secret potion driving my life till now. 

A few years ago, one of my mutual friends called me with her problems. The biggest problem she was facing in those days was that of mental depression. Her engagement was broken twice. She was ditched by her boyfriend and had married other girl. Each time she was a victim of the situations. And now, she had reached a stage where she had turned suicidal. She had called me for counsel.

In that period of time I was not so aware about helping someone mentally. However, I had had great experience in dealing with crisis. In every crisis I had ever faced, I wrote a journal note about it. Writing down my problems always lead me to the answers. It was like my journal was a wisest person on earth. 

I told her to write down her worries and thoughts. Even now I do not know why she trusted my counsel. She started writing about her worries. When she wrote her journal she also wrote what she wanted rather than what had happened. And magically, her state of happiness improved. When she called me after a week I could see the magic caused.

Two important things happened after this incident. One, my mutual friend got married to a really nice guy after 3 months. Two, I became a staunch follower of the practice of diary writing. 

I have named my previous journals as ‘The Learning’  and ‘The Journey’. In accordance with the names, I have witnessed the results. I learnt a lot when I wrote ‘the learning’. I had been through a lot of situations while i wrote The Journey. 

Today, my The Journey was completed. I sat down and thought about what my next journal should be about. And I have reached to the decision that It will be titled, ‘The Goalbook’. I am pretty sure that the journal is going to lead me towards my goals. Because that’s the logical state.

I strongly believe that whatever I write about in my journal I tend to believe and achieve it. It’s time for me to upgrade myself to the next level where I lead a life towards good health, good wealth, good success and lots of love. My goals are going to be in the same direction, and I am going to achieve them through the science of journal writing.

In case you happen to have any doubts let me explain the science of journal writing. Journal writing is a secret science used by many a great men to achieve success. Abraham Lincoln wrote a journal; Mahatma Gandhi wrote a journal and so did many great leaders of modern times. Martin Luther king, Anne Frank, Hitler are some of the examples. These people used to write What they believe in. They used positive affirmations while writing about their beliefs. They wrote about what they wanted. They used the art of visualization to their benefit. 

When we write something the thing becomes pretty clear to our mind and is easy to understand. Ones something is easy to understand it becomes easy to believe. Ones we believe something with full heart, we are sure to achieve it.

Let’s Start using this secret science many great people used for their success. Do let me know your views on the same.

The Seed Of Change Lies in Visualization #DreamIt

Recently I felt some divine powers playing around me. All I wished for was granted. It seemed to me that things were carved to fulfill my wishes. Now, when I have understood the importance of making wishes, I feel it my responsibility to share the #Secret with my fellow readers.

As per the dictionaries, the meaning of ‘#Dream’ is ‘ a series of thoughts, images, and sensations occurring in a person’s mind during sleep.’ I have come to observe that, I forget the dreams as soon as I wake up in the morning. 

Very recently, I have updated the definition of dreams. According to my updated definition dream is ‘ a series of thoughts, images, and sensations occurring continually, visually and affirmatively in a person’s mind in his conscious state.’ The reason lies at the core of what a dream can do for us.

You just need to dream it and you are halfway near to the realization. You just need to have an unwavering belief in your dreams and you reach too close to its realization. You just need to start taking steps towards it and you will have just arrived.

I had been going through a lot of turmoil in my professional life. I had done some irreparable damage to my image and my relationship at the work had almost reached to an end. At some points, I felt that I needed to change my behaviour because the bitterness was ruining my personal life. I was becoming increasingly irritated. I was gradually turning into a short tempered person. One morning I sat down and found that it was the least of what I wanted to become. I wanted to be known as a respectable person, I wanted people to recognize me for my talents, I wanted to have a positive self image.

I remembered what I read in the book titled ‘succeed yourself by Richard Denny’. I trusted that we can get whatever we wish for. 

That day I sat down and closed my eyes. I dreamed that, I wanted to be respected. I dreamed that everyone adored me, behaved with reverence. I also imagined that I will thank people when they will speak respectful and boast me. I decided to take compliments gracefully. I did all this in the conscious dream.

In upcoming days, I woke up each morning and followed the routine of dreaming. I put my faith in what I was doing. I believed and trusted that whatever I will dream, it will come true.

Things started changing gradually at the office. My colleagues started sitting in front of me to seek professional advice. It was like, they had newly discovered my presence. Suddenly everyone at the office needed something from me and I gracefully helped them. And when they complimented me, I happily took the compliments.

Now my faith in #TheSecret has risen to the next level. My faith in myself has increased manifolds. I have come to know the spectacular power of dreaming. And so I have made it a habit to dream in the morning. Everyday. 

How to Love Someone? #WithFullHeart

My wife has joined a new job from yesterday. Now she needs to leave for work at 7 AM sharp. The funny thing about her is she is never on time. Sometimes I feel that there might be something utterly wrong with her sense of timing.

I am a very serious person. When it comes to reaching somewhere on time, I can’t help but reach on time. Every time. That’s actually a good trait in me, but nevertheless it hurts my relationships sometimes. Especially when I am married to a girl who is never on time.

The bad thing is, We all have some or other deficiencies in us. The good thing is, We all have some specialities too. Human mind is a one complex place. It takes bad things rather seriously. The same used to be pricking thorn in my relationship. I used to get utterly upset over my wife when she made me late.

It had been around two months and I was growing irritated with her over timing issues. Fortunately enough, I started noticing that I hated to get upset. Now I have reached to the solution of the problem. It’s Love.

When I married her, I married her with her good and bad qualities. Like all of us, she has got some deficiencies, but that doesn’t make her bad person. Neither me having some good qualities make me a superior person to her. That just left me with one option- to love her for who she is and not for what I want her to be. 

So, today morning, I woke up earlier than her and helped her be ready on time. That way I found the joy of showing my love for her. It was just a small work of 20 minutes, each minute I felt love overflowing in me. That’s certainly a treat for my soul.

I hope you liked my experience. Do share your views on the same.

I Wrote a Letter to My Boss #ExpressYourself

Sometimes, I find it difficult to express myself in a conversation. My strength had always been written stuff. That’s the reason, today I wrote a letter to my boss to #Express my dissatisfaction to her. I am sharing the copy of the same.

Hi mam, I would like to Let you know something. In past couple of days, I have felt humiliated. It was a result of how you spoke with me. 

1- when the Nagraj and his friend came with the printed fliers, I had come to your cabin out of curiosity. You shouted at me with lot of indignation. I was hurt but did not let you know.

2- today morning, I had come to your cabin to enquire if we have something to do at Airtel office. This was because I needed a reason to visit the Airtel office. Last time I had discussed with the employee at that office about MBA admission. Now, I planned to go there and take feedback or take discussion to next level. But you shouted at me infornt of Purushotam sir. I don’t know whether you noticed it or not, it was a humiliating response. But I smiled and left. I noticed that such incidents are happening on day to day basis now.
I am pretty certain, that in all the cases I behaved immaturely. I will surely take steps to change myself now.
mam, I respect you a lot. Had you not been there i would have long gone from ICFAI. You have done a lot for me without asking. You certainly have a golden heart. Thats the reason, i am expressing my thoughts. Otherwise, I never take this much trouble. 
I observed that this is not your fault. I have shown some wickness  of character in recent times. I don’t know how to play ‘tit for tat’ game. In some cases, I have displayed that I am not capable of violence. Which is quite a fashion in demand. 
If such things keep on happening, I would not be able to focus on work. I will inadvertently leave the organization. 
My expectation from you is of gentle behaviour. Which you are certainly capable of. I have seen enough voilence in my small life. Now I would like to be treated with gentleness.
If you have reached till the end of this small letter, I would like to Let you know that this is not a complaint. I am just expressing my thoughts to you. 
Good Night.😊