In every period of human history, man has strived to understand man. Understanding human nature is a much needed quality. People spend their lives with someone, and still they express that they did not understand the person. So, when it comes to understanding the human behaviour, its as complicated a subject as the structure of a beehive might be. We want to understand it; some of us believe they understand it; some of us know and they humbly agree that they don’t understand it; and then their are some whom people believe to know human nature, but even they are as baffled as we all are.
If you belong to those who believe that understanding of human nature is a key to happiness, good health, wealth and success; I am proudly one of you. In my opinion, and observations, which is very small, everyone wants to understand human being. Many scientists and philosophers have expressed various views and opinions about the concept. Surprisingly, everyone of them is right.
Today when we discuss my understanding of human nature, we all are going to join the grand legacy of legendary scientists and philosophers.
I have come to observe that there are only two types of human beings. Since the beginning of the world there were only two kinds of people. And I have got reasons to believe that for time immemorial, there will always be two types of people. These two types are- Drivers & Passengers. In simple words, Rulers and Followers.
A large section of us who believe that they are the victims of situations; who believe that they are unlucky; who believe that life is so unfair and they never got a chance; who believe that they are punished for their sins from last birth; who follow some beliefs, scriptures, societies and groups blindly and never ask a question; who believe that they are alive because of their leaders; who believe on the information supplied to them just blindly with unquestioning faith; who believe that their is no purpose to their lives; who believe that they are insignificant; who do not think twice to kill and be killed to protect their beliefs are the Passengers.
The small segment of humans who believe that they are the centre of the world; who lead people and create the range of followers; who are always living behind a legacy in one form or other; who do not speak much but whos actions are unmistakable; who abide to truth and don’t change their sides for gains; who believe in humanity and know that it starts from them; who do charity just easily and have no pride in that; I call them Drivers.
Now here’s the catch. Both these categories need each other. Let’s not get to the point that passengers are weak ones. Let’s not decide that drivers are famous personalities and stars. We all are mixture of these two qualities. However, we have inclination towards one of them.
Now let’s see, how this helps. If you believe that you need a person to follow you. What you really need is a passenger. Since passengers are in majority its relatively easy to locate and find them. Drivers however, are fewer. Sometimes, passengers speak and act like drivers and we mistakenly take them for drivers. However, given time to observe them we will understand vividly.
Now, I will take you to the crust of the topic. This knowledge will help you understand what you can expect someone when subjected to tough situations. Passengers will run away and drivers will hold their post. This will help you because tough times will come for sure. And you should know who you can count on and who might be counting onto you. It all depends on who you are.
This theory will help you choose people. Depending on the work that you have got you need to spot either the drivers or the passengers. And beware, never choose the ones who have confusing mixture of the qualities. Because these are the confused ones.
This theory will equip you with the much needed skill of responding to the people. Both drivers and passengers seek different responses from you when they ask you something. While passengers prefer basic answers, drivers fall for flaunty artistic answers. While passengers answer themselves and won’t raise doubts, drivers can be demanding and adamant. While passengers are just lost in their own, drivers seem to look for opportunities to find your faults.
And now the most important of all. I have come to believe that what we are today is the average of the 5 people we spent our time with. Understand the people around you and the people you deal with. Decide who you want to be. If you want to be a driver and are living among passengers, its a high time you changed your friends. The opposite also applies.
I have put significant amount of thinking into this article. But I believe there might be a lot of wrongs in it. I would love to know your opinions and views on the same. Do share your views in comments.