The Most Interesting Topic Of Discussion #EffectiveCommunication

Taking with people is a topic dreaded by many. Not because we feel scared but because we seem to run out of ideas to discuss. Interestingly many of us do not know the most important topic of discussion in the world.

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I am working in the field of sales and marketing for a long time. Over the period of time I have been fortunate to interact with thousands of people; train hundreds of professionals and do business deals with dozens of them. However, it is very recently that I started working on how to speak effectively. As I often tell, whatever we tend to think about passionately, we attract them. 

Yesterday, I had been lucky to witness the live example of the person with great skills. As I explain you the whole thing, the topic will unfold itself.

Yesterday I got a call from an unknown girl. It was a marketing call. She invited me to the small presentation saying that it was only for married couple like me. She assured that I will thoroughly enjoy the thing. Whenever I have availability of time, I am always ready to learn something new. So I agreed. However, I already had an idea that it was going to be a sales presentation.

We filled the introductory form with details about us, our income, where we travel, do we have a car, what’s our holiday budget etc. From which it became clear that it was a company selling holiday packages. A sales representative was assigned for us to explain the things. That sales representative, whose name was Anant, is the hero of this article.

Anant had a faint smile on his face. Its the best greeting i received from someone in last fortnight. What I thought was, he was trained and groomed so well. However, no matter how much a person is groomed, he can’t outperform the natural ones. It seemed that he genuinely liked what he was doing. That’s a great quality in itself.

I was priorly informed that the presentation will last for an hour. I was braced for that. And I had an idea in mind that I was going to leave the presentation if it got boring. I knew I wasn’t going to need their product.

Anant started speaking about the most interesting topic on earth with us. It was the topic everyone of us, irrespective of the place, age, gendre, nationalist, religion will find most interesting. He gave the 30 minutes of his time to speak on that topic. The topic was- US.

First he introduced himself and then asked us whether we were comfortably seated. He asked whether we needed the water or the drinks. He took time to built the relation rather than jumping onto the topic of money and sales.

He started by asking us how we travelled. From then he asked us the questions in backward direction in time. As to from where we came, where we lived, how was our routine today, did our parents live with us, how long we were married etc. He exhibited the quality that makes someone your friend. Asking right questions and listening to the person with utmost interest and sincerity. That never misses to win your hearts.

Recently I came across the best-selling books like ‘how to influence people and make friends by Dale Carnegie’ and ‘Skill with people by Les Giblin’. Both these books teach us the most important and highly effective lessons in personal growth. I was deeply influenced by the clarity in these books. These books give us following important lessons-

  • Never argue with anyone. Because an argument doesn’t  make friends. Agreeing to disagree does.
  • Listen to the person and take interest in their lives. Listening to the person gives him the feeling of importance.  
  • Agree when you are mistaken. If you are wrong agree to it with open heart. Conflicts will not erupt.
  • Sympathize with people- people like you better when you take efforts to understand their point of view.
  • Talk with them about themselves – everyone of us has got something to boast about, lament about. Everyone is constantly searching for the confidante.

Talking with people is no rocket science. You just need to be genuinely interested in them. Because everyone has got their own story and everyone likes to tell it. What’s your story?

Life Is Like a Train #TheMeaningfulAnalogy

Life Is very much like a train. As it happens in a train journey, the quality of journey depends on the compartment we travel in. Similarly, the quality of life is determined by which class we choose to live in. I believe, the decision as to which compartment you wish to travel in lies with the traveller. So does the

I have been really lucky to get in touch with a few influential people. What influenced me to the core was their ability to deal with situations; their way of interacting with people and their understanding about life. One thing was very much common among the influential people I got to be with. They were all sure about what they were going to do the next day. They were sure about what they wanted to do, to have and to achieve in long term as well.

In the seminar I attended a couple of days back, I was amazed by the understanding of life by the speaker. He understood one thing for sure, we do not have to understand the life. Because, we can’t. Nobody can’t. But yes, we surely can analyse it.

Let’s hear it in speakers own words. He said, “as I look at it, life is like a Train. I will tell you why I think so. Like a Train, all of us have our journeys fixed. All of us will begin (birth) at the same point and will reach to the same destination  (death). Like a moving train, all of us will gradually grow old. There is no way we can reverse it. Like stations that come on the rail journey, all of us will go through different stages of life. And now, here is the thing I would like everyone to focus upon. Because, according to me, this is the most important part of the train journey. It is sure that all of us will reach to the same destination, but the secret is, when we will reach the destination all of us will give different reactions. You know why? Because we will travel in different compartments. Those who travelled in general class, they will complain that they are tired in the journey. They did not get the place to sit. There was no hygiene. And they did not enjoy the beauty of nature from the window. However, those who travelled in first class, they will enjoy the journey. They enjoy the comforts of the air conditioning and privacy. They enjoy the views from the window.”

There is actually no difference in all of us but how we choose to lead our life. Decide in which class you would like to lead your life. 

A Man Working In Spite of Sickness #AnalyseNow

​I started for the office early morning and found that I had a flat tyre. I was not so pleased with the turn of the events. But then, what started out as a misfortune turned out to be a great learning experience for me. Not that I learnt something new, I reiterated the learnings which are engraved over time.

Meeting with a flat tyre is a situation many office goers dread of. I am certainly one of them. For me, the most frustrating thing about the whole situation is, I have to push my two wheeler all the way to the garage. 

The thing that adds more to the discomfort is, most of the garages do not open early morning. And, more often than not, one has to do the bike pushing exercise for longer than expected. 

After pushing bike for half a mile, I finally reached to the garage which was actually open. When I reached to the garage I was suddenly sad because the owner of the small repair garage was pulling down the shutter. It appeared that he was closing for the day. The first thought that appeared to me was, I probably should take a leave from office for the day. 

As a final reaort I requested him to do the repair work.

“I am closing the garage for two hours.” The lean looking garage owner said. His eyes were swollen and red. His voice was weak. He later informed me that he was 48 years old. “I have got a fever since last 2 days. Last night I had been tossing and turning in bed whole night. The cold had entered me like a ghost. I have to go early otherwise there will be a long queue in the government hospital.”

I really felt pity for him. But I requested him nevertheless. To my surprise he pulled the shutter open. And began working.

“So kind of you to do the work in spite of ill health.” I said. What he replied had a great meaning in it.

“I am not doing this for kindness sir. I am doing this for money. I have been struggling for every single penny my whole life. It’s a very small work I am doing in illness. You might be surprised to hear this. I have dug trenches for days in such health situations. I have lifted loads; I have worked in construction sites; I have worked on rail tracks.” 

For a moment I felt like I was tormenting him. I felt guilty. I did not speak much. I hate gloomy situations like this in which I seem to run out of words to speak.

When the garage owner was done with separating the tyre. His daughter returned. She wore a khaki school dress.

He was a proud father. He asked her what was taught in the tuitions that day. The little girl replied that she had some doubts.

“Sir, can you teach this small concept of my daughter.” The owner requested me very humbly. “I went to the school for only 3 days. In my childhood days, teachers punished with canes. I was so intimidated that I stopped going to school. Now I understand that it’s the reason I am in this situation.” He went on to explain how his contemporaries had been successful and happy.

I explained the concept to his daughter he spoke his heart out.

“I have done three mistakes in my life. First, I disregarded education. Now I  am very particular about my daughter’s education. Second, In my youth I worked a lot and earned good money, but I did not know how to save money for future. And now, I have to work for survival even when I am ill. Last year a person from insurance company explained to me that if I had saved only 10 Rupees every day since my youth, I would have been a millionaire now. But I never paid any attention to it. But I am changing now. I have started saving for my daughter’s education and future. I deposit 1000 Rupees each month. Third, only last year I started this shop, otherwise I was working on wages my whole life. It was only after the person from insurance company opened my eyes. I know its late but I am happy that I have atleast began.”

When he concluded, there was a faint shine in his eyes. 

The incident is self explanatory. Let me know your views on it.

Having The Goalbook #TowardsSuccess

I am going to explain you the science of goals today. This is the science used by many great leaders, philanthropists, philosophers and scientists of modern times. Read till the end to uncover the secret of success you can use in your daily life.

For past 8 to 9 years I have maintained the daily journals. It has been a secret potion driving my life till now. 

A few years ago, one of my mutual friends called me with her problems. The biggest problem she was facing in those days was that of mental depression. Her engagement was broken twice. She was ditched by her boyfriend and had married other girl. Each time she was a victim of the situations. And now, she had reached a stage where she had turned suicidal. She had called me for counsel.

In that period of time I was not so aware about helping someone mentally. However, I had had great experience in dealing with crisis. In every crisis I had ever faced, I wrote a journal note about it. Writing down my problems always lead me to the answers. It was like my journal was a wisest person on earth. 

I told her to write down her worries and thoughts. Even now I do not know why she trusted my counsel. She started writing about her worries. When she wrote her journal she also wrote what she wanted rather than what had happened. And magically, her state of happiness improved. When she called me after a week I could see the magic caused.

Two important things happened after this incident. One, my mutual friend got married to a really nice guy after 3 months. Two, I became a staunch follower of the practice of diary writing. 

I have named my previous journals as ‘The Learning’  and ‘The Journey’. In accordance with the names, I have witnessed the results. I learnt a lot when I wrote ‘the learning’. I had been through a lot of situations while i wrote The Journey. 

Today, my The Journey was completed. I sat down and thought about what my next journal should be about. And I have reached to the decision that It will be titled, ‘The Goalbook’. I am pretty sure that the journal is going to lead me towards my goals. Because that’s the logical state.

I strongly believe that whatever I write about in my journal I tend to believe and achieve it. It’s time for me to upgrade myself to the next level where I lead a life towards good health, good wealth, good success and lots of love. My goals are going to be in the same direction, and I am going to achieve them through the science of journal writing.

In case you happen to have any doubts let me explain the science of journal writing. Journal writing is a secret science used by many a great men to achieve success. Abraham Lincoln wrote a journal; Mahatma Gandhi wrote a journal and so did many great leaders of modern times. Martin Luther king, Anne Frank, Hitler are some of the examples. These people used to write What they believe in. They used positive affirmations while writing about their beliefs. They wrote about what they wanted. They used the art of visualization to their benefit. 

When we write something the thing becomes pretty clear to our mind and is easy to understand. Ones something is easy to understand it becomes easy to believe. Ones we believe something with full heart, we are sure to achieve it.

Let’s Start using this secret science many great people used for their success. Do let me know your views on the same.

The Royal Road to Riches #HowToAttractMoney

Everyone wants to be rich. In fact, if I wrote down the names of people who want to be rich I would be on top of the list. However, not everyone of us is aware of how to attract money.

Yesterday I bought a book titled ‘How To Attract Money by Joseph Murphy’. I found the book positively motivating. The author has given all new angle to the concept of amassing wealth. The angle I am referring starts from thoughts. The thoughts thus changed are transformed into actions leading to wealth creation.

The good thing was, I have already been practicing some parts of the book in my daily life. And I have ripped excellent fruits. Let me share the brief overview of the learning with you. I believe the learning will be helpful to you in long term.

Author stresses on the mentality of being rich. Some people are groomed in such ways that they have come to hate wealth. Some people have been through the situations in which they have found money to be the root of all evils. These people walk around hating money. This keeps them poorer.

There is no virtue in being or staying poor. In fact one finds it difficult to attain peace, enjoy life through its instruments when he doesn’t have money. Thus, in many ways wealth makes our life easier. 

The law of Attraction works equally for Everyone of us. We are all bound by it. As it applies on living and non living things, so does it apply on the thoughts. The thoughts are made of energy. And could be considered and interpreted like physical things. Every thing in the world attracts everything else. So do thoughts.

The author stresses that the concept of law of Attraction is applicable on everything in the world. One can attract health, wealth, success, relationships, emotions and virtually anything that he craves for. It solely depends on how one attracts them.

One needs to think positively. Here let me clear the meaning of positive. 

Today morning, My wife informed my that there was some moisture on the kitchen floor. She said ,”take care. Don’t slip on the floor.” To her the sentence was positive. However, inadvertently she had spoken a negative sentence. When I bought the thing to her attention she said, “take care. Walk safely on the kitchen floor.” That’s a positive sentence.

We humans tend to think in terms of images. Thus when we are told that we should not slip on floor, we actually think of the images of slipping on the floor. And the same is transformed into actions. However,  we should think about what we want. If we want to be safe we should think about being safe. If we want wealth we should think about being wealthy. And when we think about having money we should think “I have a lot of flow of surplus money.” And should feel like that.

I believe, you have studied similar books before. However, I shared my thoughts one more time. We tend to forget about things. I want you to remember the concept of law of Attraction. 

Do share your thoughts and experiences in comments box.

What Is Common Among The Happy People I Met With #StayActive

My wife is a great observer. Yesterday she gave some inputs from her observations. Thought those were worth sharing.

We all look at the world. We all deal with different people. What we observe is, however, diffrent. Let me begin by saying, my wife is a great observer. She has got absolutely fabulous way of looking at the things. 

Yesterday we had been to the small business meeting. The meeting was hosted by a very senior person in the business. Recently the host had bough the big bungalow. We had heard a lot about the house from acquaintances, but hadn’t been fortunate to visit the bungalow. It was the first time my wife and me visited them.

When I left from the place I thought, “wow, the host is so rich and successful.” At the same point of time, my wife later revealed she thought, “wow, what a happy home. The walls are lined with paintings and bookshelves.” When we came back home, for the first time in my life, I felt that one day, I must have a bungalow like that. My small flat seemed quite uncomfortable to sleep in.

After the dinner my wife said what she had observed at the place. It gave an all new perspective to me. Let me put it in her own words.

‘The house was so big. They had just moved in and a lot of things were not properly kept. The interior designer had done a great job. He had kept the aura of place to be happier rather than making it overwhelming. The most amazing thing I felt was, there was a lot of positive energy. I felt happier from inside. A few things caught my attention. First one was, in each room there was a place for books. Happily enough, none was empty. There were books across different genres. Second, they had a lots of musical instruments. And they were not showcased. Looking at the host, Mr Bhardwaj, he always exhibits a positive energy. He is a multi talented person. He is a Sr vice president in the big firm, was socially active, had built a business in addition to the job, had lots of hobbies and interests.

I couldn’t help but go on to compare different great people.  Leonardo Da Vinci was a hyperactive person. He had numerous hobbies ranging from drawing, mathematics, inventions and religion. 

I have observed that successful people are always busy with something or other. They are always studying and learning new things. They are meeting new people and are passionate about what they do. That’s the secret behind their success, wellbeing and happiness. 

What do you think about it?”

The Seed Of Change Lies in Visualization #DreamIt

Recently I felt some divine powers playing around me. All I wished for was granted. It seemed to me that things were carved to fulfill my wishes. Now, when I have understood the importance of making wishes, I feel it my responsibility to share the #Secret with my fellow readers.

As per the dictionaries, the meaning of ‘#Dream’ is ‘ a series of thoughts, images, and sensations occurring in a person’s mind during sleep.’ I have come to observe that, I forget the dreams as soon as I wake up in the morning. 

Very recently, I have updated the definition of dreams. According to my updated definition dream is ‘ a series of thoughts, images, and sensations occurring continually, visually and affirmatively in a person’s mind in his conscious state.’ The reason lies at the core of what a dream can do for us.

You just need to dream it and you are halfway near to the realization. You just need to have an unwavering belief in your dreams and you reach too close to its realization. You just need to start taking steps towards it and you will have just arrived.

I had been going through a lot of turmoil in my professional life. I had done some irreparable damage to my image and my relationship at the work had almost reached to an end. At some points, I felt that I needed to change my behaviour because the bitterness was ruining my personal life. I was becoming increasingly irritated. I was gradually turning into a short tempered person. One morning I sat down and found that it was the least of what I wanted to become. I wanted to be known as a respectable person, I wanted people to recognize me for my talents, I wanted to have a positive self image.

I remembered what I read in the book titled ‘succeed yourself by Richard Denny’. I trusted that we can get whatever we wish for. 

That day I sat down and closed my eyes. I dreamed that, I wanted to be respected. I dreamed that everyone adored me, behaved with reverence. I also imagined that I will thank people when they will speak respectful and boast me. I decided to take compliments gracefully. I did all this in the conscious dream.

In upcoming days, I woke up each morning and followed the routine of dreaming. I put my faith in what I was doing. I believed and trusted that whatever I will dream, it will come true.

Things started changing gradually at the office. My colleagues started sitting in front of me to seek professional advice. It was like, they had newly discovered my presence. Suddenly everyone at the office needed something from me and I gracefully helped them. And when they complimented me, I happily took the compliments.

Now my faith in #TheSecret has risen to the next level. My faith in myself has increased manifolds. I have come to know the spectacular power of dreaming. And so I have made it a habit to dream in the morning. Everyday.