I Wrote a Letter to My Boss #ExpressYourself

Sometimes, I find it difficult to express myself in a conversation. My strength had always been written stuff. That’s the reason, today I wrote a letter to my boss to #Express my dissatisfaction to her. I am sharing the copy of the same.

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Hi mam, I would like to Let you know something. In past couple of days, I have felt humiliated. It was a result of how you spoke with me. 

1- when the Nagraj and his friend came with the printed fliers, I had come to your cabin out of curiosity. You shouted at me with lot of indignation. I was hurt but did not let you know.

2- today morning, I had come to your cabin to enquire if we have something to do at Airtel office. This was because I needed a reason to visit the Airtel office. Last time I had discussed with the employee at that office about MBA admission. Now, I planned to go there and take feedback or take discussion to next level. But you shouted at me infornt of Purushotam sir. I don’t know whether you noticed it or not, it was a humiliating response. But I smiled and left. I noticed that such incidents are happening on day to day basis now.
I am pretty certain, that in all the cases I behaved immaturely. I will surely take steps to change myself now.
mam, I respect you a lot. Had you not been there i would have long gone from ICFAI. You have done a lot for me without asking. You certainly have a golden heart. Thats the reason, i am expressing my thoughts. Otherwise, I never take this much trouble. 
I observed that this is not your fault. I have shown some wickness  of character in recent times. I don’t know how to play ‘tit for tat’ game. In some cases, I have displayed that I am not capable of violence. Which is quite a fashion in demand. 
If such things keep on happening, I would not be able to focus on work. I will inadvertently leave the organization. 
My expectation from you is of gentle behaviour. Which you are certainly capable of. I have seen enough voilence in my small life. Now I would like to be treated with gentleness.
If you have reached till the end of this small letter, I would like to Let you know that this is not a complaint. I am just expressing my thoughts to you. 
Good Night.😊

Remember To Smile #DoItNow

I read an article today. The article was written to the point and made me think about my smiling habits. The analysis gave me some necessary outputs. Read on to find out how it can be important for you as well.

In my opinion and experiences, nothing is more contagious than smile of the person you love, your friends and acquaintances, people you deal with on daily basis, people you work with and even the novices you see on the streets. That’s the #BeautyOfSmiles.


I came upon this thought today when I read the chapter from book titled Succeed Yourself by Richard Denny. In the chapter, author has emphasized on importance of smiling in all new perspectives. Here are some of the perspectives I liked :

1) Smiling takes lesser muscles than frowning. That simply meant our faces won’t be wrinkled soon if we smile more often. That also meant we will look more beautiful. 

2) The author has pointed out on smiling without any reasons. Yes, there is a difference between smiling and laughter. 

3) How about starting your day with a #Smile?

4) smiling person is automatically perceived as confident, passionate and friendly. 

5) Smile and negative thoughts will be at arms distance from you.

6) Everyone loves to speak with smiling person. Do you like to speak with a jolly person or serious one?

After reading the articles, I went on to do the analysis of my smiling habits? How often I smiled? With whom I smiled? And I was not so happy with what I found.

The first thing is these days I don’t smile much. I wear kind of a grave look on my face these days. The reason behind this is my distorted relationships with my colleagues. I have decided to improve the relationships now. I realky like my smiling face.

I have become too serious in my personal life as well. I love my wife a lot. But when am sharing time with her, my mind is almost always occupied with something or other. I don’t smile so much with her as well. This is a grave serious observation. I will make it a point to handle things with smiling face. Starting this moment itself.

I think a small change in ourselves on daily basis can make us better, happier and more importantly, stronger. What are your views about it?

Why Do I Prefer To Wake Up at 5 #LiveMore

Everyone wants to make his life more and more beautiful. It’s very easy to do so. The secret to the improved and satisfactory life is living more, doing more and more activities and ultimately staying at top of everything.

A few years back, one of the beverages company started a campaign titled “It’s your life- #MakeItLarge” The campaign concentrated on how you enhance your life by drinking those beverages. However, it gave me a good concept to think about. How to make our life more beautiful? How do I enhance my life? How do I #Enjoy its every moment?

Later I began writing on the same concept. I explored the concept in terms of experimenting with different things ranging from sports, spirituality, music, knowledge and much more. The subject, however, was so extensive that I wasn’t really satisfied with what I explored. The question wasn’t really resolved. I guess, I have reached to the core of the solution now.

For last few days I was not able to go out for #MorningWalk. As happens with all the lazy people, I started waking up late. And for last 10 days, I started waking up at 8 AM. There was a marginal difference between waking up at 5 AM and 8 AM. My routine was completely devastated with this change. The good thing, however, was I felt better to have some lazy time.

Now the grand question has struck me like lightening. I sleep between 11 PM to 8 AM. That means I sleep for 9 hours out of 24 hrs of day. I go to office and work between 9.30 to 7 PM. That leaves me with meagre 4 to 5 hours to live my life. If I live only this much, how do I make it Large?

Now, I have understood this concept of making our life large. It’s essence lies in living more. Here are the takeaways,

1) Wake up early and do as much activities as possible 

2) Do exercises, Yoga, Pranayam, read books, listen music, write the day journal, have a good hefty breakfast and then start for office.

3) I calculated the time and found that I needed atleast 4 hours of morning life.

4) The life seems more beautiful when you are occupied and involved in different activities. 

5) If we are doing single activity in 4 hours we feel day is very short. However, if we did lots of activities in couple of activities,  we feel the largeness  of the day.

6) Feeling healthy is a key to positive thoughts. So if you want to stay happy, keep yourself strong and strive to be stronger.

Now I have decided to start waking up at 5 every morning. That’s how I plan to make my life large. What are your thoughts about it? Kindly add your views too.

How To Deal With Past #MakePeace

Early morning today I felt very sad for my past actions. What happened in the morning kept me sad the whole day. By the time I returned from my office, i was pretty fed up with my mood. So, I took a pen and paper and made a critical analysis of the situation.

Not everyone has got a past he can look at with pride. Not everyone has got memories he wants to reminiscent. Not everyone cherishes his childhood as many poets paint it. I belong to those people who struggled with their past. Needless to say, I wish to #ForgetEverything for good.

Today when I sat down to do the Pranayama exercises, three people in their late sixties got themselves places to sit near to me. Healthy morning is a great way to start the day. I always look forward to it. But what happened today disturbed my mind for rest of The day.

The people were discussing about what their sons and daughters were doing. Surprisingly they had all the successful children born to them. When I overheard their discussion, inadvertently I became sad. I belong to those children whose parents will never be proud of them. I belong to those children who have crushed their parents’ wishes forever. Sadly enough, some of my actions have caused great pain to them. When I heard those people speak, I felt guilty. I knew that I can’t change anything. Nevertheless I felt sad. What happened in the morning engulfed my soul with sadness for rest of the day. The gloomy clouds of guilt hovered on my mind the whole day. I couldn’t smile at all.

When I came back from office, these are the things I noted down. These things made me #FeelBetter and #GuiltFree.

1) I can’t change what I have done. So it’s better for me to forget them and convenient for them if I don’t remind them.

2) In some cases, I had taken right decision. However, their expectations were not to my liking. In those cases, had I taken decisions as per their expectations, I would have blamed them for whole life. That would have been worse.

3) I took some crucial decisions and hid them from my parents. I feared their anger. It is fairly normal.

4) Our egos clashed and the relationship was tarnished. I have an option and will to change everything, but I fear That they will not accept me as I have now become. 

5) I remember them from tiniest of the memories. Sometimes, I wish I forget them forever and carry on with my life. Which is a good option. No one is harmed with this decision. 

6) sometimes I think that I made wrong choices and I should go back. But I shouldn’t go back. Because, I believe, no one should.

7) Given, these points from the analysis. I found, that the only way for happiness and peace of mind is, I should take responsibility for my actions. I am accountable for what happens with my life and I should accept this reality.

8) Unless I #DealWithIt, I can’t be happy. Because every now and then such things will try to make me sad. I am very much prone to negative thoughts. I should #ForgiveMyself for my mistakes. I should accept myself as I am and make peace with it.

What do you suggest my dear reader?

After Near Death Experience #BeThankful

Life is a series of miracles. Usually we do not recognize these miracles because they are wrapped in the form of regular life. But when we meet with near death experiences, we tend to see how beautiful life is.

From what I have observed in my life, I have come to believe that we humans are very ignorant about the value of life. I got fortunate to have interacted with many of my colleagues on this isaue. Almost everyone of them had a thrilling story to share about their near death experiences. Some of them had survived the accidents, some of them had survived the illnesses and some of them were saved from possible deathly situation in miraculous ways. When they told their stories they often ended by saying, “That day I got a new life with God’s grace. Had their been a small mistake I would not exist today. That day I learnt the #ValueOfLife.” Sadly enough even after having gone through these situations, those people seemed to have forgotten the important #LifeLesson. 


We humans are very forgetful. Forgetting is a bliss in many cases. However, eventually we tend to forget everything. 

Yesterday my boss at the office survived from a near death experience. From what she told, the car in which she was traveling was completely damaged in the mishap. She had survived from the accident at one of the most deadly roads in entire country. When she came back to office, she was more thankful to God than ever. The shadow of death had touched her mind but couldn’t engulf her soul.

I have survived from many such accidents. Sometimes I feel that if life were a game, I have used all my lifelines. I care a lot about avoiding accidents these days. After surviving one of the accidents, I decided to celebrate the fact. I called my girlfriend and invited her for the small party. What she told me while we were having dinner gave me a new perspective on life.

“Congratulations on surviving yet another deathly accidents” she told. “Am very thankful to God for saving the love of my life. When something like this happens, I tend to love the fact that am living. Otherwise, on most days, I compare my life with others and feel sad that I have not succeeded yet. But when I hear about near death experiences, just the fact that am living is enough for me to cheer me up.”

Later on she said, “it’s good that we are celebrating today’s occasion. You have returned safely from the mouth of death. But do we need a reminder like these to make us #CelebrateLife ? Why can’t we celebrate very often?”

In my humble opinion, life is a miraculous sequence of events. It’s futile to try and understand how life works. The simple fact that we are alive is not simple at all. Talking scientifically, living every another second is a big struggle. Every second our body undergoes lots of changes; fights millions of bacteria and viruses. Life is a struggle at every moment. Thus, when we wake up every morning, we wake up after winning a battle. 

What do you think about it? 

Everyone Has Got A Story #Listen

It’s not easy to understand someone. Because it involves a very important aspect of personality- habit of listening. This is the secret of a happy, successful and fullfiling life.

I saw two senior citizens waiting for someone at the entrance of the jogging park. When I was about to complete a first round, I noticed that the person they were waiting for had arrived. The trio of senior citizens looked too familiar with one another. It seemed like they were college time buddies. Now, they were in their late sixties. The person who came late was giving some explanation, I guessed he was giving reason behind the delay. It was just another situation, however, today it triggered the chain of thoughts in me.

How many of us really like to #Listen? How many of really put themselves in someone’s shoes? How many of us let someone #Explain the situation and not be angry at the first chance.

In one of the novels I have read, a writer has explained life as series of stories. Each story interlinked with another like a web. Each story having some consequences  that impact someone else.

It’s important to listen the story which a person has got to tell you. If a delivery boy did not arrive on time, he has #GotTheStory. If the person forgot to do something for you, he may have got a story. Everyone has got a story to tell. If you give some attention and keep some #Patience you may give someone great relief. You may end up making someone feel happier, better and stronger. 

You Are One Of Them #FeelGreat

Looking at the group of youngsters enjoying themselves in the park gave me a new perspective of #LookingLife.

When I see young guys having fun around, I feel separated from them. I feel like I am #TooOld to have fun like that. But the truth is am just 26; technically a young adult. I should be having fun, doing adventurous things and not struck between philosophy and psychology. When I think like that, I feel like I am missing something important from my life. But then I tell myself, ‘there aren’t any written rules as to how a person of particular age should behave.’


I saw a group of college goer boys and girls having fun in the park. They were quite enjoying themselves in quirky ways. For them the world around them didn’t matter much. I looked at them and thought to myself, “what’s wrong with me? I never did enjoy like that. I never mixed up in the groups. I never behaved so carefree.” I felt am so different from them. 

I can’t think negatively for a long time. My mind don’t seem to enjoy the negativity around. So, I made myself think about the #Positives I have over those boys. Here’s what I found.

1) I have participated in national level sports championships. Which only one among the hundreds does.

2) I am an extensive reader and have read around 500 books. Which is also a good number. Very few around us achieve this feat

3) I have written and self published my poetry book. 

When I thought about these things my thoughts settled for good. I was not different from them. I just happen to specialize in different area of work. 

It holds same on all of us. #WeAreSame. We might feel like we are diffrent. But the similarity between us is we all are different in our own ways.