How to manage your worries? 2 – step guide to improve your problem solving skills

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Problem solving skills are among the most demanded skills when one appears for interviews for jobs. You certainly understand that if you have these skills, you can beat of a large section of competition. 

In our personal life, we come accross a lot of problems on daily basis. Sometimes it feels that the problems aren’t going to end till your last breath. That feels most of us with worry and agony. We spend a large amount of our time and energy in getting our those problems. Gladly, there are methods to solve these petty issues. Lets take a look at 2 step problem solving guide recommend by Dale Carnegie in his book “stop worrying and start living”.
1. Ask yourself- “what are you worried about ?”

You may find this step quite funny. Especially because, you were worried about the problem. However, try to write down this problem in the form of a statement. Try something like this ‘I am worried that I will not be able to create my Android app on time.’

Now, you might have different worries troubling you at the same time. Author suggests, you can write all of them on paper in the form of statements. 

When you will be through with this step you will find out that they are not so frenetic now. You will start thinking about the problem as it is. 
2. Ask yourself – “What can be done about it?”

Write down all the solutions that come to your mind. For example in my case-

A) I can put extra efforts everyday for one week and that can complete my project on time.

B) I can ask my colleague to collaborate 

C) I can take help from online app buildings  sites.

D) I can ask for one week extension.
When you make a list, you start finding that you can solve it. Your mindset shifts from thinking about problems to problem solving. Believe me, mindset is the key to problem solving.

Do let me known your thoughts on it.

How Difficult It Is To Change Ourselves? #ForLove

For past 6 years, I was building an invisible wall around me. Unknowingly, I trapped myself in those walls. As it happens, I struggled to break away from those walls. Because over the years, I started feeling that the life behind those walls was normal one. But, it wasn’t. I was just convincing myself all those days. I did that to safeguard my beliefs. Today, I broke free from one of my beliefs.

Today I have done something which I never thought I will ever do. Even i have surprised myself with this actions. For years, I have been advocating myself for being a rational person- an atheist. However, today, I have broken my own image. I have installed the Ganesha idol in my home as the celebration of Ganesh chaturthi.

What can be a more funny thing in this unprecedented act than my acceptance. When Bhagyashri called me to ask whether we should celebrate the Ganesh Chaturthi, I happily agreed. I agreed as if I was waiting for her to raise the topic.

I find the roots of this sudden unprecedented action in my childhood. As I child, I enjoyed the festival of Ganesh Chaturthi. I enjoyed the dancing, music and the aura of celebration. When I was in 4th or 5th std, I had asked my father whether we could install the Ganesha idol in our home. He had denied. The reasons were obvious, it was a waste of resources. However, that wish lingered in my mind for years. And today, when Bhagyashri asked me I happily consented and celebrated with her.

As another form of explanation, I can say that I did what I did today out of sheer love. I love her, and I am ready to do whatever makes and keeps her happy. Thus, I believe, I am serving love. I want to say myself and I want to believe that i am an atheist. I wish to stay atheist. But if that comes in the way of my love, I will not keep it as a barrier.

Now coming to what my mind is thinking now, I am feeling completely normal. For past half a dozen years, I had grown distant. I had come to despice loud music, loud celebrations and ultimately religious activities. However, a man with hate in his heart is less a man. Hate for anything creates a hollow vacuum in our heart. We start to become weaker and distant from ourselves. And honestly, when we realise that we need to change, we can’t. Because by that time we become a slave to our older ways of thinking. We imprison ourselves in the self created world of dillusion and sadness.

Today, I have learnt one thing for sure, atheist or no atheist. I want to stay happy. That’s all. I do not wish to stop myself from enjoying diffrent parts of my life Only because they are behind the barrier of my beliefs. 

I am fighting with myself to find a perfect balance. It’s the conflict of mind. The more time you take to take your side, the more trapped you feel. I need to make my choice and make it faster.

Do you have similar experiences? Do Share your experiences in the comments box. 

A Man Working In Spite of Sickness #AnalyseNow

​I started for the office early morning and found that I had a flat tyre. I was not so pleased with the turn of the events. But then, what started out as a misfortune turned out to be a great learning experience for me. Not that I learnt something new, I reiterated the learnings which are engraved over time.

Meeting with a flat tyre is a situation many office goers dread of. I am certainly one of them. For me, the most frustrating thing about the whole situation is, I have to push my two wheeler all the way to the garage. 

The thing that adds more to the discomfort is, most of the garages do not open early morning. And, more often than not, one has to do the bike pushing exercise for longer than expected. 

After pushing bike for half a mile, I finally reached to the garage which was actually open. When I reached to the garage I was suddenly sad because the owner of the small repair garage was pulling down the shutter. It appeared that he was closing for the day. The first thought that appeared to me was, I probably should take a leave from office for the day. 

As a final reaort I requested him to do the repair work.

“I am closing the garage for two hours.” The lean looking garage owner said. His eyes were swollen and red. His voice was weak. He later informed me that he was 48 years old. “I have got a fever since last 2 days. Last night I had been tossing and turning in bed whole night. The cold had entered me like a ghost. I have to go early otherwise there will be a long queue in the government hospital.”

I really felt pity for him. But I requested him nevertheless. To my surprise he pulled the shutter open. And began working.

“So kind of you to do the work in spite of ill health.” I said. What he replied had a great meaning in it.

“I am not doing this for kindness sir. I am doing this for money. I have been struggling for every single penny my whole life. It’s a very small work I am doing in illness. You might be surprised to hear this. I have dug trenches for days in such health situations. I have lifted loads; I have worked in construction sites; I have worked on rail tracks.” 

For a moment I felt like I was tormenting him. I felt guilty. I did not speak much. I hate gloomy situations like this in which I seem to run out of words to speak.

When the garage owner was done with separating the tyre. His daughter returned. She wore a khaki school dress.

He was a proud father. He asked her what was taught in the tuitions that day. The little girl replied that she had some doubts.

“Sir, can you teach this small concept of my daughter.” The owner requested me very humbly. “I went to the school for only 3 days. In my childhood days, teachers punished with canes. I was so intimidated that I stopped going to school. Now I understand that it’s the reason I am in this situation.” He went on to explain how his contemporaries had been successful and happy.

I explained the concept to his daughter he spoke his heart out.

“I have done three mistakes in my life. First, I disregarded education. Now I  am very particular about my daughter’s education. Second, In my youth I worked a lot and earned good money, but I did not know how to save money for future. And now, I have to work for survival even when I am ill. Last year a person from insurance company explained to me that if I had saved only 10 Rupees every day since my youth, I would have been a millionaire now. But I never paid any attention to it. But I am changing now. I have started saving for my daughter’s education and future. I deposit 1000 Rupees each month. Third, only last year I started this shop, otherwise I was working on wages my whole life. It was only after the person from insurance company opened my eyes. I know its late but I am happy that I have atleast began.”

When he concluded, there was a faint shine in his eyes. 

The incident is self explanatory. Let me know your views on it.

Remember To Smile #DoItNow

I read an article today. The article was written to the point and made me think about my smiling habits. The analysis gave me some necessary outputs. Read on to find out how it can be important for you as well.

In my opinion and experiences, nothing is more contagious than smile of the person you love, your friends and acquaintances, people you deal with on daily basis, people you work with and even the novices you see on the streets. That’s the #BeautyOfSmiles.


I came upon this thought today when I read the chapter from book titled Succeed Yourself by Richard Denny. In the chapter, author has emphasized on importance of smiling in all new perspectives. Here are some of the perspectives I liked :

1) Smiling takes lesser muscles than frowning. That simply meant our faces won’t be wrinkled soon if we smile more often. That also meant we will look more beautiful. 

2) The author has pointed out on smiling without any reasons. Yes, there is a difference between smiling and laughter. 

3) How about starting your day with a #Smile?

4) smiling person is automatically perceived as confident, passionate and friendly. 

5) Smile and negative thoughts will be at arms distance from you.

6) Everyone loves to speak with smiling person. Do you like to speak with a jolly person or serious one?

After reading the articles, I went on to do the analysis of my smiling habits? How often I smiled? With whom I smiled? And I was not so happy with what I found.

The first thing is these days I don’t smile much. I wear kind of a grave look on my face these days. The reason behind this is my distorted relationships with my colleagues. I have decided to improve the relationships now. I realky like my smiling face.

I have become too serious in my personal life as well. I love my wife a lot. But when am sharing time with her, my mind is almost always occupied with something or other. I don’t smile so much with her as well. This is a grave serious observation. I will make it a point to handle things with smiling face. Starting this moment itself.

I think a small change in ourselves on daily basis can make us better, happier and more importantly, stronger. What are your views about it?

Why Do I Prefer To Wake Up at 5 #LiveMore

Everyone wants to make his life more and more beautiful. It’s very easy to do so. The secret to the improved and satisfactory life is living more, doing more and more activities and ultimately staying at top of everything.

A few years back, one of the beverages company started a campaign titled “It’s your life- #MakeItLarge” The campaign concentrated on how you enhance your life by drinking those beverages. However, it gave me a good concept to think about. How to make our life more beautiful? How do I enhance my life? How do I #Enjoy its every moment?

Later I began writing on the same concept. I explored the concept in terms of experimenting with different things ranging from sports, spirituality, music, knowledge and much more. The subject, however, was so extensive that I wasn’t really satisfied with what I explored. The question wasn’t really resolved. I guess, I have reached to the core of the solution now.

For last few days I was not able to go out for #MorningWalk. As happens with all the lazy people, I started waking up late. And for last 10 days, I started waking up at 8 AM. There was a marginal difference between waking up at 5 AM and 8 AM. My routine was completely devastated with this change. The good thing, however, was I felt better to have some lazy time.

Now the grand question has struck me like lightening. I sleep between 11 PM to 8 AM. That means I sleep for 9 hours out of 24 hrs of day. I go to office and work between 9.30 to 7 PM. That leaves me with meagre 4 to 5 hours to live my life. If I live only this much, how do I make it Large?

Now, I have understood this concept of making our life large. It’s essence lies in living more. Here are the takeaways,

1) Wake up early and do as much activities as possible 

2) Do exercises, Yoga, Pranayam, read books, listen music, write the day journal, have a good hefty breakfast and then start for office.

3) I calculated the time and found that I needed atleast 4 hours of morning life.

4) The life seems more beautiful when you are occupied and involved in different activities. 

5) If we are doing single activity in 4 hours we feel day is very short. However, if we did lots of activities in couple of activities,  we feel the largeness  of the day.

6) Feeling healthy is a key to positive thoughts. So if you want to stay happy, keep yourself strong and strive to be stronger.

Now I have decided to start waking up at 5 every morning. That’s how I plan to make my life large. What are your thoughts about it? Kindly add your views too.

Love Takes Patience #LoveMore

Love is the most beautiful & powerful feeling in the universe. It makes you happier, stronger and exceptional. But is it so easy to love someone? Given that its not so easy, How to love someone? What’s the BIG secret behind it.

Love, as a concept, can be categorised in two ways. First loving yourself and loving everyone other than yourself. What’s the difference between both?

Love, undoubtedly, is the most discussed topic among youth. Everyone wants to understand love; everyone loves someone; everyone wants to be loved back. For the past few years I thought about love too. I wanted to write a novel on love. But I found out that love actually has so many aspects.

A young married couple had brought their baby with them for the #MorningWalk. The couple and the cute baby girl were the #CentreOfAttraction in the park. The baby wasn’t in so good mood today. He was obviously irritated. This might have been because he hadn’t had a good night’s sleep. The couple had brought her to the park because babies enjoy greenery and fresh air.

I was jogging. Every time I passed accross the small family I noticed that the baby was starting to calm down. When I was about to finish the 3rd round I saw a beautiful scene. The baby was giving a kiss to his mother. That’s certainly the most beautiful thing one would see in the morning. I paused to take a look at them. The baby kissed her father too. The couple seemed pleased with themselves. They had made the baby happy. Then the mother bowed in front of the baby and placed her cheek in front of her. She wanted the baby to kiss her one more time. Instead of giving a kiss, baby slapped her with her small palms. The baby was clearly Not in mood.

That’s how love is. #LoveTakesPatience that’s the secret recipe of love. You need to #KeepLoving your loved one patiently. The loved one has the small world of his own. You need to wait patiently till he reciprocated love. Even after all the patience, you should not expect a lot of love. 

We human expect a lot from life. We expect ourselves to be loved. We expect ourselves to be respected and treated with care. However,  we seldom wish the opposite way. We seldom say to ourselves “I will love her so much that she is overwhelmed”; “I will respect her so much that she feels like a queen.”; “I will care for her so much that she will never have to worry about anything.” Not that its bad. Its who we naturally are. We are naturally mean and self-centred. We have to change ourselves patiently. Keep loving someone patiently like Rhet Butler loved Scarlett. That’s not so easy. But one’s you do, you will discover a all new person in yourself.

It’s not so different between loving yourself or someone else. Both are on the same lines. It’s not easy to love yourself with all your faults, lacunas and failures. Comparing your life with others makes It difficult for many to love themselves. Loving someone else is same. No one is perfect. No one is always in good mood. But you need patience. Because, a mother was not sad because the baby did not kiss her twice. She was happy that the baby is in good mood and that she kissed her ones. #LoveMore & #ExpectLess.