What is the purpose of my life?

We all have faced this question at one pint of time or other. we all have tried to find out our purpose of life. but, how many of is do you think really realize? well, I just happened to find out.

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Health, wealth and respect might be some of the tangible and intangible assets someone might include in his/ her purpose of life. Someone might even have a purpose of giving out love, helping millions of people, making world a better place in his / her list of purpose of life.
I have lived a better part of my life and as of yet, i have come across this question hundred of times. What is the purpose of my life? I have not found a true answer to this question.
Funny thing is, I don’t know how to find it. And even funnier things is, not even those people know it, who I thought, might know. So, somehow, its completely up to me.
Maybe I need to do some soul searching, maybe meditation and yoga might help, or maybe I should connect with enough people and gather their opinions of me. But I am not sure any of this will help. Why? Because I do not follow any such structure.
Sometimes, we find our answers in most peculiar ways possible. I found my answer couple of days back when I was smoking along with a smoker. He was talking to someone else and I overheard it.
“My purpose of life is to become the best version of myself. I do not care what anyone thinks about me. What’s most important for me is my opinion about myself.” Well, in that very moment I found that it went with my priorities. And so, thus I found my purpose of life. ‘To become the best version of myself.’

What maketh life?

What is life? I tend to think about it over and over. for a long time I thought about it and then found out a simple answer. Life is choices we make.

It has dawned onto me that the beauty of life lies in life itself. Life is what we make it. Let’s take an example to illustrate this point.
Let’s say you decided to have a cat as a pet. You might be, and you should be very well aware that life revolves around choices which we make. Now, in the case of having pet at home you have to make numerous choices. Starting from what you would call it, what you will feed it, where you will keep it, how will you groom it, how you will play etc. All these choices have implications. For example, you have an option of giving your cat the leftover food or the fresh food. A lot depends on what you choose. You might choose giving fresh food and you might make it a habit. Then there will come a day when you have no energy to prepare anything for your cat. But it won’t eat the stale food.
Similarly, life is a result of the numerous choices we make every single day. What do you choose decides what you will receive. Every single sentence you speak shapes your life. Every single moment you spend shapes your life. Every person you interact with shapes your life. Every thought you think of shapes your life.
Now, I do not think that awe can always make right choices. In fact, quite a lot of times we make Wrong choices even if we knew its implications. We decide to smoke, to drink and drive, to pay the unknowns without much worry. We do that primarily because we prefer not worrying about things.
What are your observations on this topic? Do share your beautiful thoughts in comments box.
Regards Vinod Jadhav

Life Is Like a Train #TheMeaningfulAnalogy

Life Is very much like a train. As it happens in a train journey, the quality of journey depends on the compartment we travel in. Similarly, the quality of life is determined by which class we choose to live in. I believe, the decision as to which compartment you wish to travel in lies with the traveller. So does the

I have been really lucky to get in touch with a few influential people. What influenced me to the core was their ability to deal with situations; their way of interacting with people and their understanding about life. One thing was very much common among the influential people I got to be with. They were all sure about what they were going to do the next day. They were sure about what they wanted to do, to have and to achieve in long term as well.

In the seminar I attended a couple of days back, I was amazed by the understanding of life by the speaker. He understood one thing for sure, we do not have to understand the life. Because, we can’t. Nobody can’t. But yes, we surely can analyse it.

Let’s hear it in speakers own words. He said, “as I look at it, life is like a Train. I will tell you why I think so. Like a Train, all of us have our journeys fixed. All of us will begin (birth) at the same point and will reach to the same destination  (death). Like a moving train, all of us will gradually grow old. There is no way we can reverse it. Like stations that come on the rail journey, all of us will go through different stages of life. And now, here is the thing I would like everyone to focus upon. Because, according to me, this is the most important part of the train journey. It is sure that all of us will reach to the same destination, but the secret is, when we will reach the destination all of us will give different reactions. You know why? Because we will travel in different compartments. Those who travelled in general class, they will complain that they are tired in the journey. They did not get the place to sit. There was no hygiene. And they did not enjoy the beauty of nature from the window. However, those who travelled in first class, they will enjoy the journey. They enjoy the comforts of the air conditioning and privacy. They enjoy the views from the window.”

There is actually no difference in all of us but how we choose to lead our life. Decide in which class you would like to lead your life. 

How to Manage Finances For Month #LearnFromWife

I was facing difficulty with managing my finances. Maybe because, I was trying to do it on my own. I failed a couple of times and sought counsel from my wife. That turned out to be a good practice. It helped me manage not just money but added effectiveness, love and respect in my relationship as well. Read on to find the simple trick for effective finance planning.

I have been working in the field of marketing for last 3 years. When I calculated the amount I have received from various sources I was amazed at the number. I have earned 10 to 11 Lakh Rupees of salary. I took the personal loan of 2 lakh from a bank. I earned as much as 50 thousand rupees from my investments. Inspire of all this, my savings are close to zero. I have not built any assets. Nor I have invested in any shares or bonds keeping the larger picture in mind.

To learn the art of managing finances, I shuffled through some books, some books came my way, I watched some videos. Finally I found a book I can relate to. 

The secret of managing our finances lies in one simple thing- the willingness to do so. Many of us are not simply aware that we need to start saving. RIGHT NOW. Some of us have got good jobs, some of us are born with silver spoon in their mouth while some of us believe in living for the day. But, neglecting the much needed need of savings can be disastrous in long term.

Just think about this, how have you prepared for medical emergencies; have to taken care of the education of your children; how have you taken care of your retirement funds. If the answer to any of the above questions is negative you should start building your savings right away.

The technique I am going to discuss is the simple one. And is equally effective. 

Buy three piggy banks. Lable them as “SPEND / DONATE”, “EMERGENCY FUNDS”  ,”SAVINGS / INVEST”. As soon as you receive your paycheck you need to segregate it. 

It is advisable to put 10% of amount in savings box. By savings box, I imply putting the money in savings account or buy shares, bonds. Invest the money. Dont let it lie idle. Remember the science of inflation, the money kept unused reduces in value over the period of time.

One should put close to 15 – 20% of the salary or earnings into Emergency funds. You can use this amount in the times of needs. This money can be used to meet with medical situations, education of the children etc. 

The remaining amount is for you. You can pay your rent, EMI ,buy things etc with it. But, no matter what happens let your savings grow. Do not use the emergence funds casually. 

I have started planning my expenses and savings right on my salary day. I separate the amounts of day one itself. Thankfully my wife is a pro in this art. I may take savings casually but she doesn’t. She takes pen and paper and plans out the foreseen expenses. While she does so, she keeps separate funds for movies and entertainment. It’s always good to seek counsel from your wife. That way she feels the responsibility equally. She gets the respect she deserves. By including her in planning your finances you give her a place of equality. That’s a must have thing for a healthy relationship. 

 I suggest you do the same. It’s the effective way of building a good future for you and your loved ones.

Do write back your views. I would like to learn how you manage your savings. 

Letter to Newspaper Editors #GoForDreams

​I have been planning to reach out to different newspapers to publish my articles. I very much wished to see my articles being published in the national papers. It seemed too ambitious to me. For quite some time, I kind of pushed myself back. I told myself that its too tough; it requires a great quality maybe I won’t be able to provide that; I feared that nobody will reply and my efforts will be wasted. 

But today, I decided to do it. I told myself that the worst that can happen is they will reject my request or won’t take efforts to write back. But, it might be a temporary ‘no’. They might reach out to me in future. Or, they might ask me to be a ghost writer. So I #TookAStep and began writing the letter. Am sharing the same with you. I am doing this because I feel firm on my feet when I share with my fellow readers. 

Dear sir/ madam,

Thank you for taking time to read the e-mail. 

I wish to publish my articles in your acclaimed newspaper. I am a marketing professional. I am working in the field for past three years. My work profile exposes me to meet, interact and deal with different people. I get to speak with professionals accross different industries, different ages and different geographical locations. My articles are largely influenced by those experiences. 

 I write on the aspects of self development. In my articles I share how I implemented different concepts from the well known self help books. All my articles are driven by my experiences. I believe they will get good connect with the mass audience, especially the youngsters.

The guide to self help is a need to almost every individual. Everyone wants to go ahead . Everyone is looking out for happiness, success and the much needed support. I provide my insights on different topics whos essence is to help ourselves grow. 

I would be very much obliged to you if you could extend the opportunity. Being an unknown to you, I would be delighted to meet you and share my thoughts on the same lines. My expectatation from you is to publish my articles in the columns of personal care, self help, motivation. 

Please find attached the sample articles written by me.

Hope to hear from you soon.

With Best Regards.

Remember To Smile #DoItNow

I read an article today. The article was written to the point and made me think about my smiling habits. The analysis gave me some necessary outputs. Read on to find out how it can be important for you as well.

In my opinion and experiences, nothing is more contagious than smile of the person you love, your friends and acquaintances, people you deal with on daily basis, people you work with and even the novices you see on the streets. That’s the #BeautyOfSmiles.


I came upon this thought today when I read the chapter from book titled Succeed Yourself by Richard Denny. In the chapter, author has emphasized on importance of smiling in all new perspectives. Here are some of the perspectives I liked :

1) Smiling takes lesser muscles than frowning. That simply meant our faces won’t be wrinkled soon if we smile more often. That also meant we will look more beautiful. 

2) The author has pointed out on smiling without any reasons. Yes, there is a difference between smiling and laughter. 

3) How about starting your day with a #Smile?

4) smiling person is automatically perceived as confident, passionate and friendly. 

5) Smile and negative thoughts will be at arms distance from you.

6) Everyone loves to speak with smiling person. Do you like to speak with a jolly person or serious one?

After reading the articles, I went on to do the analysis of my smiling habits? How often I smiled? With whom I smiled? And I was not so happy with what I found.

The first thing is these days I don’t smile much. I wear kind of a grave look on my face these days. The reason behind this is my distorted relationships with my colleagues. I have decided to improve the relationships now. I realky like my smiling face.

I have become too serious in my personal life as well. I love my wife a lot. But when am sharing time with her, my mind is almost always occupied with something or other. I don’t smile so much with her as well. This is a grave serious observation. I will make it a point to handle things with smiling face. Starting this moment itself.

I think a small change in ourselves on daily basis can make us better, happier and more importantly, stronger. What are your views about it?

Why Do I Prefer To Wake Up at 5 #LiveMore

Everyone wants to make his life more and more beautiful. It’s very easy to do so. The secret to the improved and satisfactory life is living more, doing more and more activities and ultimately staying at top of everything.

A few years back, one of the beverages company started a campaign titled “It’s your life- #MakeItLarge” The campaign concentrated on how you enhance your life by drinking those beverages. However, it gave me a good concept to think about. How to make our life more beautiful? How do I enhance my life? How do I #Enjoy its every moment?

Later I began writing on the same concept. I explored the concept in terms of experimenting with different things ranging from sports, spirituality, music, knowledge and much more. The subject, however, was so extensive that I wasn’t really satisfied with what I explored. The question wasn’t really resolved. I guess, I have reached to the core of the solution now.

For last few days I was not able to go out for #MorningWalk. As happens with all the lazy people, I started waking up late. And for last 10 days, I started waking up at 8 AM. There was a marginal difference between waking up at 5 AM and 8 AM. My routine was completely devastated with this change. The good thing, however, was I felt better to have some lazy time.

Now the grand question has struck me like lightening. I sleep between 11 PM to 8 AM. That means I sleep for 9 hours out of 24 hrs of day. I go to office and work between 9.30 to 7 PM. That leaves me with meagre 4 to 5 hours to live my life. If I live only this much, how do I make it Large?

Now, I have understood this concept of making our life large. It’s essence lies in living more. Here are the takeaways,

1) Wake up early and do as much activities as possible 

2) Do exercises, Yoga, Pranayam, read books, listen music, write the day journal, have a good hefty breakfast and then start for office.

3) I calculated the time and found that I needed atleast 4 hours of morning life.

4) The life seems more beautiful when you are occupied and involved in different activities. 

5) If we are doing single activity in 4 hours we feel day is very short. However, if we did lots of activities in couple of activities,  we feel the largeness  of the day.

6) Feeling healthy is a key to positive thoughts. So if you want to stay happy, keep yourself strong and strive to be stronger.

Now I have decided to start waking up at 5 every morning. That’s how I plan to make my life large. What are your thoughts about it? Kindly add your views too.