Life Is very much like a train. As it happens in a train journey, the quality of journey depends on the compartment we travel in. Similarly, the quality of life is determined by which class we choose to live in. I believe, the decision as to which compartment you wish to travel in lies with the traveller. So does the
I have been really lucky to get in touch with a few influential people. What influenced me to the core was their ability to deal with situations; their way of interacting with people and their understanding about life. One thing was very much common among the influential people I got to be with. They were all sure about what they were going to do the next day. They were sure about what they wanted to do, to have and to achieve in long term as well.
In the seminar I attended a couple of days back, I was amazed by the understanding of life by the speaker. He understood one thing for sure, we do not have to understand the life. Because, we can’t. Nobody can’t. But yes, we surely can analyse it.
Let’s hear it in speakers own words. He said, “as I look at it, life is like a Train. I will tell you why I think so. Like a Train, all of us have our journeys fixed. All of us will begin (birth) at the same point and will reach to the same destination (death). Like a moving train, all of us will gradually grow old. There is no way we can reverse it. Like stations that come on the rail journey, all of us will go through different stages of life. And now, here is the thing I would like everyone to focus upon. Because, according to me, this is the most important part of the train journey. It is sure that all of us will reach to the same destination, but the secret is, when we will reach the destination all of us will give different reactions. You know why? Because we will travel in different compartments. Those who travelled in general class, they will complain that they are tired in the journey. They did not get the place to sit. There was no hygiene. And they did not enjoy the beauty of nature from the window. However, those who travelled in first class, they will enjoy the journey. They enjoy the comforts of the air conditioning and privacy. They enjoy the views from the window.”
There is actually no difference in all of us but how we choose to lead our life. Decide in which class you would like to lead your life.
It’s not easy to understand someone. Because it involves a very important aspect of personality- habit of listening. This is the secret of a happy, successful and fullfiling life.
I saw two senior citizens waiting for someone at the entrance of the jogging park. When I was about to complete a first round, I noticed that the person they were waiting for had arrived. The trio of senior citizens looked too familiar with one another. It seemed like they were college time buddies. Now, they were in their late sixties. The person who came late was giving some explanation, I guessed he was giving reason behind the delay. It was just another situation, however, today it triggered the chain of thoughts in me.
How many of us really like to #Listen? How many of really put themselves in someone’s shoes? How many of us let someone #Explain the situation and not be angry at the first chance.
In one of the novels I have read, a writer has explained life as series of stories. Each story interlinked with another like a web. Each story having some consequences that impact someone else.
It’s important to listen the story which a person has got to tell you. If a delivery boy did not arrive on time, he has #GotTheStory. If the person forgot to do something for you, he may have got a story. Everyone has got a story to tell. If you give some attention and keep some #Patience you may give someone great relief. You may end up making someone feel happier, better and stronger.
It’s easy to hurt someone with words. Especially when someone has made a mistake and won’t mind it if you used wrong words or called him names.
It’s a noble thing to say sorry when you have hurt someone. That way the person who was hurt feels better. The one who says sorry feels guilt free and at peace with himself.
#Attitude is a difficult thing to maintain. Especially with words. When I was on the verge of boyhood, I learnt these 2 words, ‘sorry’ and ‘thank you’. I struggled finding a gap between being humble and too naive while using these words. Sometimes I said sorry too often that I felt weaker inside. Sometimes I said thank you, so much, on such negligible instances that it made me feel weaker too. I later on learnt that the effective use of these 2 words determined my personality. Well, its same with everyone.
Today while jogging inadvertently my shoulder rubbed against the female who was jogging in opposite direction. I was very much absorbed in my own thoughts today. Mine is a strong shoulder. She might have felt the impact. I stopped the same moment and felt that I made a mistake. The female was in her mid thirties. She was a medium built, fair complexioned, married women. She wore blue and saffron coloured track suit.
“I am very sorry.” I said apologetically
She gave a faint smile and said, “It’s alright, such things happen.”
I felt so better and relieved in a moment. She said those words in most graceful way possible.
When I came back from park I thought about it. I felt for the two sides. First one was me. I felt so better when she said those words so #Politely and #Sportily. A good thing from morning can light up your day. It almost made my day. Second side was that of the female. She had the option to use angry words with me. The females hold their attitude at higher altar in our society. They hold kind of grudge on males as a whole. So, she will have easily used some wrong words or called me wrong names like idiot, fool etc. But instead she used kind words with smile on her face. She would have felt much better too. When you have an option that you can behave bad and still you behave good, that makes you feel #Stronger.
Love is the most beautiful & powerful feeling in the universe. It makes you happier, stronger and exceptional. But is it so easy to love someone? Given that its not so easy, How to love someone? What’s the BIG secret behind it.
Love, as a concept, can be categorised in two ways. First loving yourself and loving everyone other than yourself. What’s the difference between both?
Love, undoubtedly, is the most discussed topic among youth. Everyone wants to understand love; everyone loves someone; everyone wants to be loved back. For the past few years I thought about love too. I wanted to write a novel on love. But I found out that love actually has so many aspects.
A young married couple had brought their baby with them for the #MorningWalk. The couple and the cute baby girl were the #CentreOfAttraction in the park. The baby wasn’t in so good mood today. He was obviously irritated. This might have been because he hadn’t had a good night’s sleep. The couple had brought her to the park because babies enjoy greenery and fresh air.
I was jogging. Every time I passed accross the small family I noticed that the baby was starting to calm down. When I was about to finish the 3rd round I saw a beautiful scene. The baby was giving a kiss to his mother. That’s certainly the most beautiful thing one would see in the morning. I paused to take a look at them. The baby kissed her father too. The couple seemed pleased with themselves. They had made the baby happy. Then the mother bowed in front of the baby and placed her cheek in front of her. She wanted the baby to kiss her one more time. Instead of giving a kiss, baby slapped her with her small palms. The baby was clearly Not in mood.
That’s how love is. #LoveTakesPatience that’s the secret recipe of love. You need to #KeepLoving your loved one patiently. The loved one has the small world of his own. You need to wait patiently till he reciprocated love. Even after all the patience, you should not expect a lot of love.
We human expect a lot from life. We expect ourselves to be loved. We expect ourselves to be respected and treated with care. However, we seldom wish the opposite way. We seldom say to ourselves “I will love her so much that she is overwhelmed”; “I will respect her so much that she feels like a queen.”; “I will care for her so much that she will never have to worry about anything.” Not that its bad. Its who we naturally are. We are naturally mean and self-centred. We have to change ourselves patiently. Keep loving someone patiently like Rhet Butler loved Scarlett. That’s not so easy. But one’s you do, you will discover a all new person in yourself.
It’s not so different between loving yourself or someone else. Both are on the same lines. It’s not easy to love yourself with all your faults, lacunas and failures. Comparing your life with others makes It difficult for many to love themselves. Loving someone else is same. No one is perfect. No one is always in good mood. But you need patience. Because, a mother was not sad because the baby did not kiss her twice. She was happy that the baby is in good mood and that she kissed her ones. #LoveMore & #ExpectLess.